This used to happen with me and still does on some days. But, what I realized is that when I knew I was meeting up with someone at the gym or if we made a goal together, then I stuck with it more. For me, the reason was mainly because I wasn’t about to let that person down and in the process I accomplished my goal, gained a sense of accomplishment and gained something to be proud of.
The American Society of Training and Development found that people are 65% likely to meet a goal after committing to another person. And, their chances of success increased to 95% when they built in partner check in meetings. That’s pretty incredible!
Can you imagine succeeding 95% of the time when making exercise and nutrition goals….that means we are accomplishing it almost always! This is what happens when we feel like someone else is counting on us to meet our goal and counting on us to help them meet theirs.
So, how do we become a good accountability partner? We need to communicate clearly, directly, honestly and respectfully. Our goal is to help each other succeed, right? So, don’t be afraid to mention something respectfully if you see your partner slipping. And, of course, don’t be bent out of shape if your partner says something to you. Constructive criticism is an important piece of this plan. It’s a judgement free zone where we are helping each other to succeed...remember that.
If you haven’t been able to accomplish your goals and have the motivation to get there, consider finding a partner who is on the same page as you. Come up with a plan, set clear goals with dates, establish the process it will take to get there and set up weekly meetings to discuss how it’s going. Get ready to feel really good about yourself!